On the off chance you were wondering where I've been the past week and a half, here's your answer: I was on tour! Kind of. The tour involved a lot of staying at my apartment and my parents' house.
By now you all know about my deep love and devotion for Messenger Down, but what you may not have known was that I was helping them book their first tour outside of North Carolina. I mean, I wrote about it, but I don't know how many of you actually read all the nonsense I put up on this blog.
Due to a lot of things going wrong and a lot of things going right, the tour ended up being confined to New Jersey and New York, which happens to be my personal terrain. Since my ultimate life goal is to tour manage, Messenger Down's manager Amanda and I discussed the possibility of me joining the guys while they did their short run of the area. Everything was in hypotheticals until a few weeks ago, when all of my wildest hopes and dreams came true.
The guys let me join them on their first tour, acting as a tour manager/ travel agent/ hostess with the mostest/ videographer/ merch girl. Obviously, I made a binder. And spreadsheets. That's what I do.
I learned a lot on tour, but not the way I expected. I assumed my lessons would be in things like negotiating, keeping track of money, managing other people. In a nutshell, controlling things. Instead, they came in the form of me learning to just let shit happen.
I'm of the school where I expect myself to do everything perfectly on the first try. Guess what? On tour, that ain't gonna fly. You can't control how many people show up to a show, you can't control the other bands, you can't control anything but how you respond to the obstacles that pop up in your path along the way. And, to my own surprise, I responded well. I kept my head (most of the time) and got shit done. Yes, there were times when I felt like a failure, and wanted to just be a failure and leave it at that, but you know what was even better? Getting over it and moving on.
Anyway, this is turning into a bit of a diary entry, so I'll be a bit more concise: be prepared, expect things to not go according to plan, and really take the time to love where you are. I could have chalked the experience up to a loss, but I had so much fun and loved the people I was with, so it was easier to see the wins. And this experience was a win.